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50 Shades of STFU, 4th Thursdays at Sanctuary Club

$10  |  21+ | 8pm – close 

Spank the patriarchy at the hottest femdom party in Portland, OR. Hosted by yours truly, 50 Shades of STFU is a kinky play party, social event, and performance venue for fem tops and the individuals who serve and worship them. We aim to create an inclusive space for LGBTQ, pansexual, queer, or straight subs and their fem tops. A variety of performances kick off the evening, everything from drag, to strip, to intense performative kink scenes. 

If you’re a cis male dom this is really not the event for you. If you wanna switch it up and explore your subby side you are welcome to come. Check your entitlement at the door & see dress code.

*Playspaces, St. Andrews cross, semi-private areas, spanking benches, and hard points available.


This is a party to encourage and fuel fem tops and those who are interested in being submissive to them. We aim to be inclusive while encouraging attendees to dress the part, this is to create a safe space for this community to explore. We are looking to avoid gawkers or entitled dude tourists.

Fems can dress to impress as they wish (fetish wear encouraged).
Female subs encouraged to present as such as well.

Male attendees are required to dress to express their interest in fem dominance, even in some small way: fetish wear, collars, cuffs, high heels, fetish shoes, hoods, crossdressed, glamour, make-up, uniforms*, leather, PVC, lingerie, formal wear, leashes, puppy or animal costumes, sweet jammies, cute underpants, bow ties, bunny ears, etc.

Cisgendered male attendees will not be allowed in the club in plain street clothes.

For first-timers, black clothing and nice underwear are acceptable. If you have nothing to wear, we will give you a nametag to identify as: submissive, slave, sub-curious, etc.

Attendees will not move about the space nude unless part of an active scene. 

*Racist/fascist symbols and uniforms are not allowed in the club.


  • Do not interrupt scenes!

  • Do not get too close to play scenes or ask to be involved.

  • Always negotiate boundaries before playing!

  • Play is encouraged but NEVER expected of anyone.

  • Safe, sane, and 100% consensual play only.

  • Dungeon Monitors will be present and monitoring all scenes.


  • Aggressive cruising will not be tolerated. Be aware of the space and energy you are taking when you hover or get near a play scene.

  • CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT. Do not touch another person or their property without their explicit permission. No means no. Do not get pushy or aggressive. This behavior will be grounds for being asked to leave the club.

  • Attendees will not move about the space nude unless part of an active scene.

  • No blood play, urine play, hot wax, vomit, scat, fire, knife play, guns, or breathplay. The DMs will end scenes including these actions.

  • Attendees will respect the Dungeon Monitors, hostess Mistress Viola, security, and Sanctuary staff and follow the rules and instructions.

  • No drugs or outside alcohol allowed.

  • No audio or video recording devices are allowed.

  • Cell phones may only be used outside or in the outer hallway. NO PHOTOS ALLOWED. If we see you taking photos you will be asked to leave.

  • Limit your play scenes to 45 mins as to allow time for others to use the play areas, suspension points and dungeon furniture as there are limited areas.

  • Clean furniture and play equipment before and after scenes. There are cleaning supplies provided by the club.

  • Do not move play furniture without discussing with DM or Mistress Viola first.

  • If you feel someone is misbehaving, being aggressive, or making you or someone else feel uncomfortable, please let the DMs, hostess Mistress Viola or club staff know ASAP and we will do what we can to inform the individual or have them removed.

  • Use of the word “safeword” is a call for assistance. DMs and/or other experienced players will intervene and come to your aid when they hear it.

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November 29th | Sanctuary Club Downtown | $10  |  21+ | Doors at 8pm - Show at 9:30

November marks the 1 year anniversary of this play party. It has been a wild ride and so so wonderful to help build this community and see all of you coming back for MORE & MORE & MORE. So in honor of all the weirdness and hotness, we are stepping it up a notch for November with a fetish fashion show featuring latex designers Blacklickorish Latex, Nikki2Love Latex, and designs by Latex J. Fashion designers will have their runway shows, followed by the opportunity to prance your look down the runway. Red carpet photographers in the entrance to the club. Play party to follow the show. Raffling off some sexy toys!

Note: This party falls not on the 4th Thursday as it usually does, because that is Thanksgiving, so this will be the 5th Thursday for November only.

More info on Fetlife and Facebook.

Teaching my first class at the new space! Don’t miss it.

Teaching my first class at the new space! Don’t miss it.

Workshop: Come Correct
How to Approach, Serve & Dazzle Dominant Femmes

November 20th | 7:30-9pm

Mistress Viola in collaboration with Mona Darling presents a mini charm school for those with submissive inclinations, who desire to meet and serve dominant femmes. Hosted in our newly opened fetish space, we will focus on coaching eager newbies on the fine art of approaching dominant femmes, both in person and online. So many submissives we have worked with (both in the lifestyle and professionally) are at a loss for where to start & how to find what they are looking for. We will demystify kinky dating and negotiating with play partners with a series of helpful tips and femdom insight. This class covers a myriad of topics: online networking and dating platforms (what NOT to do, ie: dick pics vs. anything else), attending BDSM events, how to be of service, how to present at events (what to wear and what NOT to wear), how to write a respectful introductory message, emotional labor & energy vampires, setting boundaries, how to ask for what you want when you aren’t sure, negotiation, and contracts. We encourage participation from both femdoms & subs. Open to anyone on either side of the equation - and there will time for open discussion and questions.

Tickets available here: […]

If the price of the event is cost prohibitive and you're a community member who frequently attends Mistress Viola's events, please reach out directly to request a discount code. There are also reduced rate tickets available for femdoms. Limited in quantity. Email:

Mistres Viola pictured with Alexis (Queen of the Velvet Rope!), Lo Satanic, Mistress Fenris, and cabana toys.

Mistres Viola pictured with Alexis (Queen of the Velvet Rope!), Lo Satanic, Mistress Fenris, and cabana toys.

FEMPIRE at The Velvet Rope

November 16th | 21+ | 9pm – close 

FEMPIRE is Portland’s newest FemDom event, masterminded by Mistress Viola and The Velvet Rope. This party is a feast for your fem senses, the perfect night to be serviced and spoiled by those eager to serve. Bring out your QUEENLY best or fetish finest.

DRESS CODE for cis men as usual (see below). But points for looking like a sexy, innocent little peasant walking home alone in the dark - ripe for bloodsucking...

Featuring three stories of hedonistic delights:

  • Scantily clad cabana toys in service to the Queens

  • Body massage and foot rub stations

  • Hot tubs to soak off the stink of the patriarchy.

  • Private photo booth area (strictly monitored for discretion) - where you can document your gorgeous ensembles in front of a Queenly backdrop - photos will be sent to your email after the fact!

  • PLUS: FemDom tastings with experienced and professional dommes where you can worship the Queen's feet or get spanked, stomped, trampled, whipped, paddled, or otherwise teased and tortured. (Suggested donation for tastings & photobooth because #tippingisexy.)

Calling all kinky explorers, service subs, slaves, servants, toys, pets, puppies, bunnies, objectifiable pieces of meat, pain sluts, service subs, fem subs, and all those in between… This is an inclusive LGBTQIA party aimed at encouraging and fueling fem tops and those who are interested in serving, worshipping, and kneeling before them.

If you’re a male dom this is really not the event for you. If you want to switch it up and explore your subby service side you are welcome to join us! Don’t forget to check your entitlement at the door & follow the dress code below.

Facebook event click HERE
Fetlife event click HERE
$20 for all before 11pm | Membership Pricing after

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No effort, no entry
Cis-gendered male attendees will not be allowed in the club in plain street clothes, jeans, or even a nice suit.
At the very least, wear something sexy for the ladies to show us you’re trying. We encourage you to dress to express your interest in fem dominance and being of service, even in some small way: maids outfit, butler ensemble, cabana boy, cute underpants, fetish wear, collars, cuffs, high heels, bikini, loincloths, fetish shoes, hoods, cross-dressed, glamour, make-up, leather, PVC, lingerie, leashes, puppy or animal costumes, sweet jammies, cute underpants, costumes, bow ties, bunny ears, etc.
Note: If you have nothing to wear (which is unlikely), we will have a grab bag of items for you to put on. Be ready for us to decorate you!
Fems, crossdressers, and trans folk can present how they please. Fem subs encouraged to present as such.