FemDom Play Party, April 2nd

SAVE THE DATE — TICKET LINK TO COME

 
 

April 2nd, 8pm-close, Process PDX


Produced by Mistress Viola, 50 Shades of STFU is a kinky play party and social event for femdoms, themdoms, and femme tops and the individuals who serve and worship them. The party was monthly at Sanctuary from 2017-2025 and has now moved to an exciting new space; unlike in previous years, this will be a ticketed event. Please save the date. Ticket link will be live soon.

In keeping with our tradition, we will have a theme for folks looking for inspiration in what to wear. Resurrection as a theme references a few things: that weekend is Easter weekend, so religious icons are up for grabs, as well as Easter bunnies, springtime, pastel pasties, or pagan springtime fertility rituals. In past years April’s theme was always TRASHIQUE (in honor of Earth day) so folks are also encouraged to make a fierce fetish look out of recycled materials, a different take on the theme of RESURRECTION.

What happens at this infamous event?
STFU aims to create an inclusive space for LGBTQ, pansexual, queer, or straight submissives and their femme tops. If you're a cisgendered male dom this is really not the event for you. However, if you're switchy and/or abide by the dress code you are welcome to join us! Tastings will be limited. We will have some exciting equipment on demo and for some to try out. Service submissive positions will be limited to folks who have served in the past. Playspaces and some equipment will be available. Tastings and performances will be scaled back slightly to create more space for socializing and play. There is a bar with drinks and NA beverages. There will be security and DMs as in the past.

DRESS CODE:
No effort, no entry!
The overall rule here is that men (trans men are men!) are not to be assuming a position of power at this FemDom party, and dress to represent that. If at any point you feel we have made an assumption based on your presentation please let us know what step we can take to remedy this! FemDom/them/femme attendees can dress to impress as they wish (fetish wear encouraged).

Men and submissive attendees are required to dress to express their interest in femdom, even in some small way, examples include:

  • Fetish wear, collars/leash, cuffs, high heels, fetish shoes, hoods, leather, PVC

  • Crossdressed, glamour, make-up, lingerie

  • Uniforms*, costumes, puppy or animal costumes (*Racist/fascist symbols or uniforms are not allowed in the club. )

  • Bright silly clothing, rainbows, sweet jammies, cute underpants, bow ties, bunny ears, etc.

  • May not wear plain street clothes, jeans, or even a nice suit. If you have not made an effort to abide by the dress code, you may not be allowed entry.

First-timer men and submissives who do not own fetishwear:

  • Something costumey or silly

  • Can be shirtless or take their pants off to show off their underwear (we have bunny ears, cat ears, and collars you may use as well for the duration of the event if you have not come prepared, but people not abiding inside the club may be asked to leave!)

The space is 21+.
The space is on the first floor and is ADA accessible with accessible bathrooms.
Masks are not required, but please do stay home if you are feeling sick in any way for the safety of all attendees.

OFFICIAL PARTY RULES OF ENGAGEMENT:

  • Cell phones may only be used outside. NO PHONES OUT IN CLUB. If we see you taking photos or filming you will be asked to leave immediately. The only exception is at the photobooth. Please ensure only consenting people are in any photo taken at the photobooth.

  • No audio or video recording devices are allowed.

  • No drugs or outside alcohol allowed.

  • CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT. Do not touch another person or their property without their explicit permission. No means no. Do not get pushy or aggressive. This behavior will be grounds for being asked to leave the club. Play is encouraged but NEVER expected.

  • Do not interrupt scenes!

  • Do not get too close to play scenes or ask to be involved.

  • Always negotiate boundaries before playing.

  • Risk-aware and 100% consensual play only.

  • Dungeon Monitors (DMs) will be present and monitoring the space, be aware: this space can be crowded. Attendees will respect the Dungeon Monitors, hosts, security, and club staff and will adhere to the rules and instructions.

  • Aggressive cruising will not be tolerated. Be aware of the space and energy you are taking when you hover or get near a play scene.

  • No blood play, urine play, hot wax, fire, vomit, scat, knife play, guns, or breath play. The DMs will end scenes including these actions.

  • Limit your play scenes to 25 mins max to allow time for others to use the play areas and dungeon furniture – as there are limited areas.

  • Genitals must be covered unless part of an active play scene. This goes all for all attendees. Sheer stuff is ok just make sure the goodies are covered in some way.

  • Clean furniture and play equipment before and after scenes. Some basic cleaning supplies will be provided.

  • Do not move play furniture or install suspension gear without discussing with DMs or party host first.

  • If you're planning to embark on an intense or edgy scene please let a DM know prior.

  • If you feel someone is misbehaving, being aggressive, or making you or someone else feel uncomfortable, please let the DMs, hosts, or club staff know ASAP and we will do what we can to inform the individual or have them removed.

  • Use of the word “safeword” is a call for assistance. DMs and/or other experienced players will intervene and come to your aid when they hear it. If a DM hears the word "red" they also might intervene if they feel it is necessary.